The Bible says, “Nobody should seek his own good, but the good of others” (I Corinthians 10:24, NIV). This type of love in our society has been lost. People choose to gain power, influence people, and fulfill selfish needs. The world constantly teaches this concept, especially through television, which portrays people who fall in love instantly and who place much emphasis on feelings. They imply that there is no cost.
This is contrary to the Christian way, which says that love without will is impossible. God always puts the two together. If there is no sense of commitment, then the love is not real. It is sentimentality. The extreme is will without love or, in other words, manipulation.
Many times, Satan has set up strongholds in a believer’s soul to make him occupied with self rather than others. A stronghold is when self is exalted, and God is left in the abstract.
What makes up love today? Where is the Source? In order for you to qualify as having “real love,” you must be willing to be selfless. That is unconditional-loving at whatever the cost. “This is how we know what love is” Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers” (I John 3:16, NIV). The world is crying out for us to show them how much God loves them. We must not only tell them, but show them.