Many people do not respond positively to constructive criticism because of a poor self-image. Criticism may wound an individual rather than correct him. God’s unconditional love accomplishes more by edifying the person without compromising the details. Whenever you practice this principle with your children you are giving them an impartation of God’s life instead of a natural reaction.
Let us look at a situation that is familiar to every parent. Children must learn to be disciplined in helping with household chores, but what is the best method for parents to teach the child responsibility in this area without constant correction? Here is the creative method: “Let’s clean your room to help your mother this week. This will bless her, because she has been very tired and has worked hard.” The child learns right habits by working and sharing responsibility and also blesses his mother. Believer’s must teach and motivate their children to do small tasks the best they know how at a very young age. Before you know it the child will be disciplined to clean his bedroom and to take care of his clothes, etc. He will not do it perfectly, of course, but he will develop discipline. Practice this method with your own children and you will find it to be an effective approach. “Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right” (Proverbs 20:11).