People who are afraid of authority simply don't know what it is. They equate God's authority with how they have been mistreated by illegitimate authority. But bona fide authority is based on Calvary's love. Remember, God is love (1 John 4:8), and He manifested love by giving His life.
When you come under the authority of perfect love, you will find it is not grievous at all.
Before love ever exercises authority, it does everything to lay down its life for those who will submit to bona fide authority. God was in Christ, and Christ was in the world, reconciling the world unto Himself, not imputing our trespasses unto us (2 Corinthians 5:19).
The authority over the Church is love-it is love that provides and protects; it does not usurp authority or invade privacy. It does not interfere with a person's believer- priesthood. Love protects the right of every person to stand or fall before God (Romans 14:4).
God is love. God the Father manifested that love by giving His Son, Jesus, to be our Savior.