When I argue with another Christian, in principle I am taking Christ’s name in vain and doing despite to the Spirit of grace. Now, if I were the only one affected by the chastisement, that would be one thing. But the chastisement can also affect my family and children because of what they may have been exposed to. So you see, this is very serious.
God is the God of all mercy (2 Corinthians 1:3), the God of all comfort, the God of all patience (Romans 15:5), and the God of all grace (1 Peter 5:10). He is the God who was Love before He created anyone or anything. He is still love today, and His name, Yaweh, means mercy, graciousness, lovingkindness, longsuffering, and forgiveness (Exodus 34:6-7).
I want to make it clear that we are not to judge, lest we be judged. We have to put the Finished Work into our relationships. In the measure we judge, judgment is going to come back on us.
By refusing to look at anyone after the flesh, we make Finished Work righteousness, grace, and mercy available to the guilty, the ignorant, and the fallen. We build up those who are crushed by things in their life. Everyone needs to be seen in the Finished Work and ministered to in the Finished Work.