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How God Uses Mere Men

Pain is Longsuffering, Expanding, Lingering

In our suffering we may face gloom at dawn, and dawn after dawn, on and on, it stays. Grieving pain is longsuffering, expanding, lingering. It keeps on keeping on, reduces curing to schemes of preservation; ignores the total healing potential. Bodily aches require pain relievers, salves, creams, and rest. Pain of loss needs equal kinds of attention.

Wound Protection

First of my strategies in soul-trauma was to eliminate downward-turning advancements toward the mind-emotion-conscience etc. especially feelings. This exercise was simply “wound protection,” accepted since making peace with the loitering wound was considered a normal function. I became acquainted with just how much my wound would endure, which was not that much. I nursed it; after all, it assumed a prominent place in my soul.

A Wounded Soul is a Discerning One

Woundees are a particular breed. As one of them, I didn’t really savor being around negative people. I craved love and attention; it was easy to discern skeptical or insincere folks. These kinds were like a tinkling symbol or sounding brass.

No offense, but a wounded soul is a discerning one. Click To Tweet

Almost Angelic

On the positive side, friends and people who really were genuine helped so much. A person who recognized my pain, had sensitivity, empathy, or at least sympathy; they had something precious about them. These seemed almost angelic and drew love and admiration out of me from somewhere down inside. These had the love of God, in spite of being just human.

Did I seek attention? I sought love.

Some may have called me an egotist and that could be accurate. Injuries expose ego, however, my hurt was not phony, but real. Needy and self-centered, I was not other-wise motivated; it was a sincere hardship, that’s all. Did I seek attention? I desperately sought love.

People Bring the Words

Have you been the hurting one? If you have, often you can’t really find sweet words of comfort and healing from God in heaven. People must bring the words; words which have also been shared by love through others.

Jesus, the greatest sufferer, sought comfort from his disciples in the garden. Click To Tweet

Even Jesus Sought the Comfort of His Fellows

As the gospels reveal, Jesus in the garden of agony was forsaken of His Father for a brief moment in history. Jesus asked His disciples to join Him in prayer. They failed, but the need was shown apparent. Yes, even Jesus sought the comfort of His fellows. This is touching.

Wired for Touch

We are so wired that support, even physical touch, yes, is still very valuable to us. We are not referring to illicit touch or sexual advancements, but we are thinking of the deeper, pure, compassion of one human being toward another — A feeling of identification, of sharing pain, of sensing in empathy the pain of a friend.

Friends are Born for Adversity

Finally, has a person ever released you from ultimate pain which pain never returned? Not with me. Friends are born for adversity, loving at all times. This means that pain can be ongoing without a final deliverance from it in sight, but perhaps healing comes after many years.

Standing By a Loved One

For us, we learn the great value of standing by a loved one, of understanding their attention seeking, of looking deeper at their real and unmassaged hurt. Self seekers and deprived people often do not love themselves. They grope for a deep-seated heart satisfaction and rest.

We Hug Some, We Kiss Their Cheek

The heart of God cares to meet them, to sooth their aching, to heal their broken heart, to set their soul free. He came and touched many; then passed the ball to us to stroke them with His compassion, with words and touches. We hug some, we kiss their cheek, and we tell them about what Jesus did. Yes, Jesus died for them, yes He gave His life on purpose, it was love, it was for all of us.

Walk With the Healer

Friends, lets not be so hyper-spiritual that we fail our great opportunity to walk with the Healer. Our little hand-shakes, love-words, hugs and caresses go much farther than we think. Care with Jesus, and find His gentleness. Let it overtake you, saturate you, love you and overflow with it. It hides the fault and sees the poverty.

Tom Sliva

Tom Sliva

Born in Pittsburgh Pennsylvania, Pastor Sliva went to Bible college in Massachusetts at the Stevens School of the Bible in !982. He and his family moved to Baltimore in1987 to be a part of Greater Grace World Outreach. From there, he served in Prescott, Arizona, and Indianapolis, Ind. Ordained upon his return to Baltimore in 1995, Pastor Sliva was afflicted with brain cysts in the late 90's and stayed at home base until his recovery in 2002. He then assisted with ministries in Cincinnati and Pittsburgh before resettling in Baltimore due to his son's sudden illness and death. Pastor Sliva is a colon cancer survivor and has been part of Pastoral care team at Greater Grace since 2008. He is also a writer of his blog at http://tsliva.blogspot.com and leader of the Grief Share group.
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    Noreen says

    thank you pastor tom.

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    Karen says

    Beautiful, heart wrenching truths. Thanks for your words of hope for the hurting.

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    Lisa says

    Love this, P. Tom. So true. Sometimes we deprive the people that need it most of love, often we don’t realize we’re doing it! Lord, give us your eyes.

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