Content of heart reveals itself in our words. May we learn how to encourage and edify with things said in season. This is the essence of discernment and delight in life. (Matthew 12:34-37; Isaiah 50:4; 1 Peter 3:10)

Speaker: Thomas Schaller, Gary Groenewold
Sermon: 12586
6:30 PM on 09/24/2023

P. Schaller –

Turn with me to Isaiah 50, please. Praise the Lord. Question: Do any of you feel that your way of talking, your
language or your speech, has changed since you became a believer? Really? Do you don’t know
how that makes me feel. So happy about that. I feel that way too for myself. How we talk. How
we are with people in home and at work and with family. How we talk. How we think.
So, I have a short message. You know it’s not going to be short, right? You know that.

So, why do I even say it. That’s one thing about speech, correcting ourselves. I just did that. Okay. Turn
to Isaiah 50:4. Imagine Christ comes into the world of cursing and arrogance and manipulation and
divisiveness and religious pride, and then how does he talk when he is with us? Let’s follow him
and watch him. By the way, the women’s seminar yesterday and Friday – Friday night – it was
amazing. There was a table of food like I’ve never seen before! Did you see that table? I mean
the men didn’t see the table.

Why do we have like just, you know, why do we have beans and
hot dogs and beans?! Hey! Be satisfied with that! Move along. Move long. Ladies have gourmet
cheeses and strawberries. Was there chocolate, too? Dipping and strawberries and gourmet.
What are we? Chopped liver? What do we get?!! Hash out of the can. Dinty Moore stew. Okay.
Isabella Palmieri shared something very profound, and it was our trials are ordained of God.
Like that was amazing. Our trials are ordained of God.

Every trial, God uses the trial, and we respond to him and we grow and find him in it. It was great. I appreciated it. I think we have the best women in the world. You know I tell it at the gym, right? Okay. Forget it. Let’s move on
here. Hey, amazing women. I was joking yesterday when I said after I listened to the first
speakers, I changed my mind that we should ordain women! And the women were like, no, no.
Don’t do that. No, I said if I went to the elders with that idea, I’d be removed immediately.

Good to have P. Scibelli here. He’s heading to Asia. I can’t believe how hard he works and what
he does. It’s amazing. And Linda. And they’re 50 th wedding anniversary today, right? Fifty years
ago. Fifty years ago. And Linda said “I do.” He said, “I take her” and she said, “I do.” And then
her parents said you’ll live to regret it! No, you’ll never regret it! That’s amazing. It’s amazing.

Look at this verse. We’ll take four pieces out of the verse and just make a simple outline here.
This is God the Father, vs. 4. #1. He has a certain way of speaking as the learned. Educated from
God. Understanding God. Understanding God’s mind. God’s given me the tongue of somebody
with insight that Christ knew that he understood he came from heaven, but he still had to learn
doctrine, Luke 2:52. He did. He had to live as a man. When he’s seven years old, though he is
God, he’s a seven-year old boy, and he’s limited like a seven-year old boy. But when he was 12-
years old, he was 12-years old like a 12-year old boy, but very wise. Like very wise. Whatever
that was. But he had this. God gave it to him. It came from God.

Of course, he had it in his deity, but he didn’t live in the deity. Yes, he did. He lived as God-Man, but what I’m saying is he lived as a man by faith. And limited himself in the plan of God to be a humble servant. So, #1 is what
was his tongue like? How did he talk? What was his speech like? What did he say? And how was

#2. Vs. 4. How to speak. And of course, I don’t want to read into the Scripture, but I’d like to
just bring your attention to the Scripture. How to speak. How did he speak? He knew how. He
knew if it should be firm, authoritative; if it was compassionate, if he wept and said a few
words. How to speak. A good word, isn’t it?

I think because you are spiritual people you understand that sometimes when you go to bed
and you know you should talk to somebody, you pray. And you wonder, how do I speak to
them? How do I do it? How do I approach them? How will it happen? I think that’s the third

Vs. 4. How to speak a word in season. So this is season or timing. How to speak. Timing. Jesus
had this. He had this gift. He had this ministry. He had authority over his tongue. He could be
quiet cause it wasn’t time. He could be quiet before Pilate. When it was time to answer Pilate,
then he knew. He knew how to speak, and he knew when to speak. When he spoke to the
Pharisees, there were different kinds of Pharisees. Some Pharisees he was very rough with
them, Matthew 23. And he said to them, woe unto you. Count the woes in chapter 23. Like you are
cursed people. You are cursed people. You are cursed people. This is what he said to them. He
was strong.

And then there were other Pharisees that he could talk to and lead them. Have you never read
what David, what happened with David? Have you never read again. And then, how is it you
don’t understand?

Another way he spoke to Pharisees was with Simon in his house. Simon, I have something to
say to you. This woman has been forgiven much and loves much. And somebody had been
forgiven loves little. Is that correct? Remember that in Luke 7. So, I think you’re following it with

Look at vs. 4 again. #4. Weary. Tired. Frustrated. Angry. Empty. Lonely. Weary. Religiously
weary. I love that idea. Religiously tired. Religiously. In the world, how about in the world tired?
In the world exhausted, beat up, guilty, defeated, addicted. Addicted to a drug or bad habit. He
knows how to talk to us. He knows how to build us up. He knows how to lead us. He knows
when to do it. He knows how to do it. He has the timing. He knows what to say. He has the
word for us.

Remember the seven churches. He had a word for them, and he explained. He told them where
they were at and what it was that they had in the future. So, this is Jesus Christ. Main point of this short, this lesson, is that we would like to be something like him in our lives. We would like
it to change our bad habits. And I have like three or four of the bad habits here in my papers,
and I want to share with you. Okay, so what about this? I’ll finish with that right now. Does any
of that make sense to you? Yeah. Okay.

Let’s go then to James 3:2. Okay. You wonder how we could illustrate that. Many things we
offend all. I do. We do. We offend easily. We might walk past somebody without greeting them,
and they would expect us to greet them, but we don’t because it just maybe isn’t in our mind.
We offended them. Maybe somebody had a birthday and a friend of theirs did not recognize it
or call them. They were offended. Maybe something happened in the church. We are offended.
Maybe a small thing. Nobody is to blame, but we just get offended easily.

In many ways, words offend people. Absence of words. Harsh words. Divisive words. Gossip.
Many ways people are offended, and words are a big part of it. I said something to somebody
recently and I realized, oh. Boy. The spirit I said it in was right, but I think the way it came out
wasn’t exactly right. Has that happened to you? I have that also happen with my wife and I
through the years, and I say like a frog came out of my mouth. A frog. That was a frog. That’s
from the book of Revelation chapter 16.

When frogs came out of king’s mouths, and the house can fill up with frogs like in Egypt. The frogs were everywhere. The frogs were in the bathroom. Here’s the lesson. Don’t fill your house up with frogs. That’s all. Learn something. Learn something about your tongue. Learn something about our speech. Learn something for
yourself. You have self-talk, and you have public talk. You have personal talk, private talk with
your, with people and your private talk and we have semi-private talk and then we have public
talk and there’s a lot of talk that happens in your life. Self-talk is a big part of it, too.
Look at chapter 3:2. Now, Jesus did offend but it was based on this Isaiah 50. He did offend, but
it wasn’t offensive to God. It was right. It was what they needed to hear. It was from God when
he was angry with them, so that’s to be understood.

Vs. 2. Control the whole body. They have control on your hands, your mouth, your eyes. To
control your whole body. Your feet. Imagine that. Isn’t that a good word. That would be a
blessing. Now, this is beyond us as sinners unless we are under the guidance and the leading
and the influence of the Holy Spirit, and the Holy Spirit controls your body in Romans 6. The
Holy Spirit can you control our tongue. Acts 2 at Pentecost, the Spirit came down and there
were tongues of fire. Tongues of fire, not hands of fire, but tongues of fire. Why tongues?
Because that’s the hardest part to control in a man. The Lord is saying I will control your
tongue. I will have authority over your tongue by the filling of the Spirit. You will praise me.
You’ll be thankful. You’ll be wise. You’ll be edifying.

So, we have chapter 3 is a great chapter. I think we’re familiar with it, but of course if we did
that as our message tonight, I’m sure it would be fresh and it would speak to our hearts. But we
don’t have time. But I do have something I want to turn your attention to is in Matthew 12. This will
be the last part that we’ll look at.

Matthew 12:34-37. This is Matthew 12. Vs. 34. Out of what is in the heart. That’s why it’s important to
have a personal worship time where you cultivate in your heart the good things. Cultivate it.
Cause there is a time coming when you’ll be tempted to say things out of your mouth that are
evil. There are even habits that we have where we have these habits.

I have a story here. This writer says “sometimes it’s hard to believe there are people who
deliberately engage in bringing dissension. I had a cousin who’d experience much domestic
turmoil during her childhood. Years later at our family gathering, she was not satisfied until she
had picked a fight or maneuvered somebody into an argument with another person. Being a
peace breaker seemed to make her happier than enjoying family camaraderie. Dissension and
division were so ingrained in her, that she embraced them as normal. She professed a
relationship with God, but her behavior overshadowed her claim. Proverbs 6:19 where there are
seven things that the Lord detests, one of them is sowing discord amongst the brethren, and
Paul urges believers to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.”

Let’s stop there for a second. There are bad habits that we can have in our family where we call
it normal, but we should bring that before the Lord. And say, Lord, this is not right. I shouldn’t
do this. I shouldn’t pick a fight. I shouldn’t talk like this. But I do it because it’s in my heart. In
my heart I’m angry. Or in my family when I grew up, this is how we treated each other, and I
enjoy the confusion and dissension and the fighting. And I have to say that this isn’t what you
want. You want to be like Jesus. Not on that level where that’s in the world, and people do it at
work. They do it as a way of life, but you don’t do that. You can’t do that. You are saying, you
are saying, no. I want the Holy Spirit to teach me the goodness, the forgiveness, the love, the
words, the words of life. I would like this.

Read the verse with me, please. Vs. 35. There it is. That’s a good verse, isn’t it. A good man out
of the good treasure of the heart brings forth good things. Why on a Monday morning when
you go to work, do your people, the people at work say, how was your weekend? You just say, I
had a great weekend. What did you do? I was at the church. What did you – good things. Good
things came into my heart at church. Good things. And out of the heart comes the good things.
So, I’m at work I just say that, and I mean it in my heart.

That’s, they look at you twice. They go, what? And you go, yeah. Which raises another issue I think and that is why would I read a book, pulp fiction book, about murder and adultery and sexual – what’s the word? Fire. Inflamed
passion and lust. Yeah, lust. Inflamed passion. Why would I read that and feed my soul that?
What will come out of my heart? I’m walking in a grocery store, and that comes out of my heart. And I look around and there’s a pretty girl or something like that, that comes out of my
heart. Why does it come out of my heart? Because that’s what I’m putting in my heart. That’s
how I think. So, evil comes out of my heart, because I’m putting evil in my heart.

But wait a minute. Isn’t God in the heart? Yes, God is in the heart. Are you in fellowship with
God? Am I in fellowship with God? And out of that fellowship will come. The words of faith,
words of appreciation. What a beautiful day it is today. What’s in the heart. God gave us rain.
Do you know how many places in the world they pray for rain? And we got buried with rain.
Thank you, God. So our world is green like my favor color.

The world is green. Thank you, Jesus. It’s in the heart. What comes out of the heart, the mouth is speaking from what is in the heart.

Here’s another good point. In speech, we have manipulation. Now, Delilah said this to Samson,
Judges 16:15. We can put that verse up. Delilah. Anybody here ever met a Delilah? Aer there
any Delilah’s in the house? Vs. 15. Huh, Samson? Your heart’s not with me. You don’t love me.
You mocked me these three times and not told me where your great strength lies. What’s she
doing? Manipulating. If you love me, you would tell me. What if I loved you and I didn’t tell
you? What about that plan? I don’t tell you, but I love you. You shouldn’t have been with her
anyway, because she was greedy and also manipulative. Manipulative.

I remember because I’m a pastor for years like many of the pastors here. This woman really
wanted this guy to marry her, and they were out in nature, and she would threaten to jump off
a cliff, you know, if he didn’t do something about it. Like ask her to marry him. That was when
the flags went up. That will never happen. I’m not marrying a woman who’s like threatening me
to have me marry her. Wow.

So, in your speech, you must have discernment. And this is beautiful, and you have it. The Holy
Spirit will teach you. Are you manipulative? The Holy Spirit will say are you sowing discord? The
Holy Spirit will show you. Are you not, are you? What’s coming out of your heart? That’s what
he will do.

Go to Matthew 12 just to finish the text here. There are things that are not in our hearts and the
world is shocked it’s not in your heart. Honestly. Don’t you lie? Don’t you deceive? One time I
was late for a meeting. One time I was late for a meeting, and I misplaced my keys. So, I found
them within a few minutes, but I’m late for the meeting. Then when I go to the meeting, I say
I’m late because I misplaced my keys.

Why are you laughing so hard? Why? Because we understand. I’m not late for the meeting
because I misplaced the keys. I’m using that as an excuse. I’m being deceitful. That’s deceit.
That’s a lie. That’s not true. I was late anyway. I threw the keys back there. Looked around.
Where are they? Lisa, have you seen my keys? Okay. I got an excuse. I’m a liar. Honestly, I’m
not, – take what I’m saying in your heart. I am being a little silly. That point is true.

I’m just trying for you to understand the Scripture here, cuz this is what’s in the heart of man. He can’t
be honest. He has a hard time being honest. He has a hard time being transparent, vulnerable.
He has a hard time admitting guilt. And he makes excuses as a habit to get off the hook. And I
do, too. I do, too. That’s us. But let’s change. Let’s change it up.
Have you ever been with somebody who – how about this? You explain something to
somebody, and they start answering you before they hear you. Before they hear you, they start
answering you. They’re not even listening. The Bible says in James 1, be quick to hear and slow
to speak. Isn’t that good?

What am I saying tonight? I’m saying because you are born again, then you are going to learn
how to speak with love like Jesus here. This one. You’re going to learn how to speak with love.
You’re going to learn how to edify. And people are going to be drawn to your wisdom and your
love and your joy and your encouragement and be honest with you. They can be honest with
you and slow to speak.

I love hanging out with P. Hadley cause he checks me. Cause he is objective and very honest. As
all of the guys on our staff are. I’m very thankful for that. And then we just had Mark DeMoss
here. He was just a beautiful minister of the Spirit to us to encourage us and edify. I took that as
a lesson, too. How do we speak and how do we edify, and what we can do with our families and
our friends.

And then remember, – let’s just say the tongue of the learned, and let’s put this word here,
“content.” #1 is content. And I’ll finish this up. I’ve got to have the content. Where do I get the
content? In the church, in the Bible, with my friends. I’ll end up being like them. They are those
kind of people. They have a great tongue or great content. They have something to say. I’m
weary. I need help. I need encouragement. I need to go to the church and get loved up and get
built up. It’s a place for us and that happens amongst us.

And then Jesus says in Matthew 12, that “every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give
account in the day of judgment.” That’s this one here. Idle word. Maybe a word not needed.
Maybe a bad word. Maybe a gossip. Maybe an unnecessary word. Maybe a lame excuse. I lost
my keys. Come on! You know. By the way, that can be – the Lord, how many words, how many
words, how many words are unnecessary and how many are wrong? What happens in our
hearts and in our lives because we don’t have this authority. I don’t want you to leave here
guilty. I want you to be challenged by this message.

I want you to think about it and change it. In our house, it’s a house of thanksgiving, quietness, praise, appreciation, content, fellowship. A good time. A good time. Lisa, may I say something. Lisa, my wife over here. She likes this
sitcom. I hope it’s okay for me to say – she’s saying – I’m already into it. What’s the name of it?
I Love Raymond. I Love Raymond, right? You know that? I Love Raymond. And I’ll hear her in the other room laughing. It’s like funny or pure and simple. And my wife is so pure. I feel that
way. She’s so edifying and so clean. And like when things aren’t good, she turns it down. Never
any weird mysteries or murder or anything like that.

But just simple, wholesome. How about the Hallmark movies? I don’t know if you guys are on the TV. Personally, I don’t. Girly movies or something. Romantic but wholesome. Wholesome and that kind of thing.
I’m saying, please listen. I’m saying if you got anything in that area of your life that you need to
get cleaned up, I challenge you be filled with praise and encouragement and edification. It will
change your life. I’m not kidding. It will change your life. You’ll live long. It says that 1 Peter 3.
You’ll live long on the earth. I won’t look for it. I know it’s there. Put it up, please. 1 Peter 3:7,
isn’t it? vs. 8-9. There it is.

That verse is it and then vs. 10. Okay. I got it wrong. I thought it was long life. He will love life.
Love life. Do we love life around here? Love life. Life is good. Come on. Look at the patio. It
speaks for itself. We love life. We love life. See good days. Let him refrain his tongue from evil
and his lips that speak no deceit. Pastor, why are you late? I left my keys, but that’s not the real
reason. I slept too long or some other thing or whatever it is. My car had a flat tire – last year! It
had a flat tire. Okay. Amen. Would you talk for a minute to each other about the message and
love each other up regards to the message. Go ahead. Have a good time. Amen.


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